Omg thank you for writing this. I do often think about the closure I never received from previous friendships and my relationship before getting married. It's a shame I'll never know the answers, but one thing's for sure: shit happens, and sometimes you just gotta dust yourself off and move on. because the right people who are meant to be in your life WILL BE <3 bookmarking this page so I can send it to any of my friends going thru something like this.
Ugh I feel for both you and your friend here. I remember finding out an ex of mine was getting married (this was when I was already in a new relationship) and the whole thing shook me much more than I expected. I don’t even know why, we had closure. Sometimes I think it’s just the shock of seeing the life we could have had played out in front of us.
But you’re right of course, even that is proof closure doesn’t always help. Sometimes even with it there’s still a confusion around why and how did it happen and but what if…
And all you can do is accept it, and eventually, let go.
You are so right about a part of it being the shock of seeing the life we could have had... I know I've talked about it before, but I get very lost in those what if questions myself 🩷🩷
They’re honestly my favorite questions to get lost in. I don’t know why, but I just love to live there, even when it hurts. It’s a bittersweet kind of pain 🤷♀️
Ugh I felt this one. After I broke up with an ex I was so desperate for closure I hand wrote him letters 😶 I never got any closure and resolved then and there to never check up on him again. Still have no idea what he's up to and I think I'm happier for it.
Omg thank you for writing this. I do often think about the closure I never received from previous friendships and my relationship before getting married. It's a shame I'll never know the answers, but one thing's for sure: shit happens, and sometimes you just gotta dust yourself off and move on. because the right people who are meant to be in your life WILL BE <3 bookmarking this page so I can send it to any of my friends going thru something like this.
Ugh I feel for both you and your friend here. I remember finding out an ex of mine was getting married (this was when I was already in a new relationship) and the whole thing shook me much more than I expected. I don’t even know why, we had closure. Sometimes I think it’s just the shock of seeing the life we could have had played out in front of us.
But you’re right of course, even that is proof closure doesn’t always help. Sometimes even with it there’s still a confusion around why and how did it happen and but what if…
And all you can do is accept it, and eventually, let go.
I hope your friend feels better soon 🖤
You are so right about a part of it being the shock of seeing the life we could have had... I know I've talked about it before, but I get very lost in those what if questions myself 🩷🩷
They’re honestly my favorite questions to get lost in. I don’t know why, but I just love to live there, even when it hurts. It’s a bittersweet kind of pain 🤷♀️
I'm so glad this resonated!! Lack of closure is such a universal experience, but we don't talk about it nearly enough!!
And yes! The people who are meant to be will always be there!!
Ugh I felt this one. After I broke up with an ex I was so desperate for closure I hand wrote him letters 😶 I never got any closure and resolved then and there to never check up on him again. Still have no idea what he's up to and I think I'm happier for it.
That it does 🩷🩷🩷